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Though
people talk about being "bar-mitzvahed" there is NO ritual that must
be performed to be considered a Jewish adult in the eyes of Jewish law.
So whats the big deal all about?
Why all the celebration?
Jewish
law holds parents accountable for their children's misdeeds. And since moms and dads,
as of their child's "coming of age," are now no longer liable if their little darling
cause damage, steal or lie, it's cause for celebration.
It is also a reason to be joyful for the the bar mitzvah boy and bat mitzvah
girl, who are now at the age when personal
responsibility dawns. This new accountability is cause for celebration - for both,
the parents who are no longer "blamed" for their child's misconduct,
and for the child can now be proud of the new responsibility.
For
many children, preparing for a bar mitzvah ceremony a highlight of their growing
awareness of Judaism and is a moment when they are the center of attention (a
most craved position). To participate in the service gives a sense of belonging.
To be the focus of all the fussing provides a sense of importance.
If it is done right, the experience will be positive and will build a
warm, happy, lasting bond with Jewish life.
Furthermore
a bar and bat mitzvah is timed to coincide with the first stretch of
adolescence. As a teen reaches for
identity throughout these rocky years, bar and bat mitzvah memories fend for
what it means to be a Jew. In the
best case they will foster a sense of connection with all Judaism has to offer.
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